'Possessive' Roommate Bashed for Anger Towards Man Kissing Their Friend

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The internet has bashed a roommate after they got mad at a man for kissing their friend.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a roommate under the anonymous username u/aitata3726 shared their story and received over 9,000 upvotes and 7,000 comments on their viral post.

The original poster (OP) began their story by explaining that they recently let their coworker and friend of three years, "Jayden" and his daughter "Lia" move in with them. The OP described Jayden as "funny, smart and cute." Unfortunately for Jayen, he was forced to quit his job due to budget cuts.

After seeing how worried he was about rent, the OP and he figured out a plan since they loved having Jayden and Lia around. Jayden ended up being in charge of all the chores, errands and housework. After he found a part-time job, he continued to do most of the chores and pay a small amount in rent.

Roommate angry at man kissing their friend
Above, two roommates argue. Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a roommate was bashed for being angry at a coworker for kissing her friend. AntonioGuillem/iStock / Getty Images Plus

The OP explained where the conflict began, "My friends have come over quite a few times, and obviously met him. Last weekend I had a bunch of my friends stay over. I thought it went great but the next day Lia told me she saw Jayden kiss my best friend. I was really upset and Jayden and I ended up arguing about it. I told him how betrayed I felt. He tried to say it was fine, that apparently that kiss 'wasn't intentional' and he didn't say anything because they 'didn't know what it meant'. But it's still wrong, I'm doing so much only for him to do this to me.

"I got upset and told him that he will have to leave if he just wants take advantage of my kindness. That I don't want to live with someone who betrays me like that. He was offended and just tried to act like it was no big deal and I was being crazy. He thinks I 'have no right' to say anything about his love life, even though it's my best friend and I'm doing so much for him. Our talk didn't really work but I did talk to my best friend, and she agreed to back off."

Ever since their argument, Jayden has been acting "cold" towards the OP and told them that they plan on moving out as soon as possible. They believe it's "his own fault" as he shouldn't kiss the OP's friends.

In a recent edit to the post, the OP confirms that they are not jealous nor in love with Jayden. They believe it was "rude" and "ungrateful" to do what he did.

Newsweek reached out to u/aitata3726 for comment.

How to tell your roommate you want them to move out

Are you in a similar situation to the OP's where you want to kick out a roommate but don't know where to begin? According to rent.com, here are a few ways to start the conversation about your roommate moving out:

  • Be sure to think it through. Have specific reasons why you want them to leave. Also, try having a sit-down conversation with your roommate to see if you can work it out.
  • When you're ready, find an appropriate time and place to have the conversation.
  • Be sure to take responsibility for your decision and avoid any accusations.
  • If applicable, split up the belongings you share evenly.
  • Take a look at your lease. Legally, you can't kick a roommate off the lease unless they are involved in a crime. Ask your landlord for more information on the legalities.

Newsweek has published several articles regarding roommates including a student who was bashed for relying on her roommate's alarm in the mornings and a man who was dragged for telling his roommate her style is "lazy and unattractive."

Redditors' reaction

"[You're the a**hole] Jesus you are possessive of someone that you aren't even with," u/chill_stoner_0604 wrote, receiving the top comment of over 23,000 upvotes.

"[You're the a**hole]," u/Educational_Race5679 said, "It seems like you wanted build a family so unless you left a big detail out, you're jealous and angry it wasn't you."

U/Rastavaray questioned, "[You're the a**hole]. You don't own your best friend. Jayden and your [best friend] are two consenting adults and can do as they please. How could this possibly be a betrayal? Work out what? Why would he want to live with such a drama queen?"

"[You're the a**hole]. Like seriously, I will never understand the getting p**sed over a friend getting with another friend as long as neither party knew someone else was interested and both parties are considered good people. Like it makes me MORE comfortable when one of my friends gets with another (when it is known both people are respectable, we're not talking about people that are known to partner hop here) since i trust my friends more than a stranger. I don't see how it's a betrayal without there being known romantic feelings involved with any of the threee people involved here," u/CorporateSharkbait commented.

"[You're the a**hole]. You act like he owes you adoration and love because you were nice to him," u/ncslazar7 pointed out.

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